Responsibilities

There are so many responsibilities that individuals have, it is a normal act for any person to do. Without responsibilities you can not make a good living.

The males responsibility are to become the breadwinner of the home which is the necessary thing to do as a male they is fully grown and ready to marry, he has some choices to make and he is also the one to cater for the needs of the family though we also have rare cases of females becoming a breadwinner which is not suppose to be in Africa but the right one is for the male to be the man of the home. Likewise females also, they have some responsibilities to hold which is to watch out for the kids, take care of the home and prepare food for the family. The females get married by the males but some females do office work too which they might not be able to take good care of the home.

Benefit of Responsibilities

Being responsible can change your lifestyle in any aspect of your life.

Look at the ways to benefit from being responsible:

1. You become more confident

“Character – the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life – is the source from which self- respect springs”. – Jean Didion

As well as being the cause of an issue or circumstance, being responsible also means that you have the power to make things better. Simply put, if your mistake had enough influence to produce the wrong outcome; doing the right thing will have enough influence to produce the right outcome.

When you see things from this perspective, you begin to see how powerful and influential you can be. You begin to realise that you can achieve whatever you want as long as you choose, and implement, the correct actions.

When you fail to take the actions that you need to take a achieve your goals, it is usually for one of the following reasons:

1. You don’t believe you can do it

2. You are waiting until you believe you can do a perfect job

3. It feels daunting and overwhelming

When being responsible for your life is a core principle that you live by; you are never afraid to get started. You accept that you might not get it right the first time, but you know that you can learn from whatever outcome you achieve. Then, you can implement whatever changes you need to make and achieve a better outcome. Being responsible means that you are always learning and always improving, So,you can never fail because you don’t give up till you get where you want to go.

Imagine having a mindset whereby you believed that you could achieve anything that you set your mind to. Being responsible for your own life allows you to achieve this because when you see each experience as a learning experience, you are always confident that you can improve.

2. You solve more problems

“ To say you have no choice is to relieve yourself of responsibility.” – Patrick Ness

When you are not being responsible, you find it more difficult to solve any problems that arise. The reason for this is pretty simple; there are a number of potential causes of any problem and by avoiding being responsible, you are refusing to consider one of the most likely causes of the problems you experience you or your actions or failure to take action.

There may be several reasons why you refuse to consider the idea that you are responsible for your own outcomes, including:

1. You don’t want to look bad in front of others

2. You fear the potential consequences e.g, being disciplined at work

3. You’re arrogant

Those are just 3 of the most common reasons but each of them makes you look worse. Most people can accept when others make mistakes because we know that we make them too. When you refuse to look at your own mistakes, it irritates others because even if you are not arrogant, you come across that way, being honest about your mistakes is actually a great way to build relationships.

When you are willing to consider your own mistakes, by being responsible, you are more likely to find some or all of the problems. Remember that there is one common denominator in all your problems – you

That doesn’t mean you should beat yourself up. You should feel empowered because you now know what you need to change and so; a better outcome is in your hands. Life is full of problems and challenges. When you are willing to consider everything that might be contributing to your problems, you are more likely to solve these problems quickly.

3. You experience better relationships

“most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility , and most people are frightened of responsibility.” – Sigmund Freud

Have you ever noticed how people give someone an easy time when that person admits that they made a mistake? We are all human and as such, we all make mistakes, nobody is infallible and deep down we know that. Therefore, when somebody is in them. We know that we make mistakes too so we are more likely to react with empathy and compassion.

Empathy and compassion serve to improve the quality of relationships by helping people bond and relate to each other.

Alternatively, think about how you feel when somebody refuses to accept responsibility even though you know that it is them who made the mistake. They seem less trustworthy, if they blame someone else for their mistakes, you are likely to think that they would blame you just as early, it is hard to empathies or be compassionate with someone like this and with the breakdown of trust, the relationship suffers.

4. You become a role model

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so.” – Neom Chomsky

You owe it to your family to act responsibly. By doing this you are teaching your children good habits and you are helping them to accept responsibility for their actions. You are displaying the strong values which you would like them to develop.

It is the same with friends and colleagues. Rather than telling others how they should behave, you are demonstrating it by being a suitable role model. Rather than preach your values, you are living them.

I bet you can think of someone who never behaves in the manner they expect others to behave. Their hypocrisy is really irritating isn’t it? It is as if they think that they are better than you and: they don’t have to play by the same rules. You don’t want to cooperate with them and neither does anyone else.

If you want others to behave in a particular manner, the best way to do it is to demonstrate the behavior that you wish to see, when you constantly hold yourself to the highest standards, most people will want to emulate you. There will be one or two exceptions, but you will have a lot less conflict than you would if you tried telling others what to do.

Being responsible for your own thoughts, words and behaviour is one way in which you hold yourself to the highest standard. When people see you hold yourself accountable. They will have less resistance when you hold them accountable for their actions too.

5. Improved decision making

“Take responsibility for your own happiness, never put it in other people’s hands.” – Roy T. Benneth

Making decisions and choices is also connected to responsibility. It is quite easy to put off making a particular decision because you are worried or fearful of the consequences. There may be other people who will be affected by this decision and by putting it off, you are not helping them.

Instead you need to be responsible to yourself and to others by taking the bull by the horns and making a tough decision. You may not be able to please everyone but you need to make the right choice for you.

By actually taking action and doing something you are being responsible. Once you have made this decision you need to be strong enough to follow it through. On the way, you may meet with obstacles and roadblocks. You  need to hold strong with your conviction and stay with your original decision.

Conclusion

Life doesn’t have to be something that happens to us but something we shape and control. With the influx of events that are entirely out of our control, there are many circumstances with which we do have a say in. When experiencing hardships, one may be inclined to feel discouraged and helpless. However, it’s important to remember that you can take control of your life by taking responsibility. Although we can not control everything in life that happens to us and the ones we care for, we can maintain how we respond.

A lack of responsibility for your life may show up in the following ways: pessimistic thinking, a victimized mentality, frequent arguments, indecision, stagnancy, and codependency. When we become responsible for our lives, we notice more things going in our favor. If you want to create a better quality of life, filled with peace and joy, then you should be mindful of how you approach the way you live your life.